The Big Finale

In regards to the final project, I think that it similarly to the previous paper we should be broken up into specific parts in which to work on but not without first brainstorming and sharing ideas all together as a class. If we can successfully divide people into the parts that they are interested in and know what to do it will expedite the creation of the website. I think we should cover all three of the topic in different sections of the website where we can go in depth on the details of the topic. With everyone assigned to a small subsection of the three topics it would potentially make grading easier. The grading should also include the overall product and how it all turns out in the end. As long as everyone contributes to their part of the website I don’t see where there would be a problem making this idea a reality.

The Secret Behind Tough Guys

Ever wonder why guys don’t like talking about their feelings? Unfortunately I can’t give you one exact answer because its different for every person. Some boys are more inclined to share their thoughts and feeling than others who don’t want to seem weak in doing so.

Nioba Way a professor of psychology at New York University determined after 20 years of research that boys aren’t as hard as they like to appear. She reveals that “boys are not only more invested in ongoing romantic relationships but also have less confidence navigating them than do girls” (593). This shows us that boys do have feelings and do care about many things but just aren’t sure how to express them in a way expectable to themselves and others because of how they would be viewed. This becomes an issue because “romantic partners are their [boys] primary source of intimacy” (593). While girls are more comfortable in confiding in close friends and family members, boys don’t see that as an option. This begs the question, what needs to be done in order to change this in todays generation of boys?

does your vote really matter?

It has long been a tradition in the United States and around the world to vote when your country, state, or town has an election. But in recent years it feels like more and more people feel like their vote has little to no impact on the actual election results. For example, every presidential election seems to come down to five or six swing states while every other state will vote the same way they have in the past. For example, every election California goes for the Democratic candidate for president while states like Alabama and Tennessee always go for the Republican candidate. So if your a Republican in Califonia is it even worth your time to go out and vote when you already know your state will be called for the Democrats the second the polls close. This is why America has seen a decline in voting in the past years, many Americans feel like their state is already decided and feel compelled to vote. So how do we fix this system so that more Americans are inclined to vote? One way to fix this would be to remove the electoral college so that every American has the same direct vote. The problem with that if you look at the map above it looks like Donald Trump won the majority of the vote but Hillary Clinton actually won by 2 million votes. So off this, we still don’t have a way to make it seem like your vote actually means something and this will be a problem facing future Americans.

Intelligence

Intelligence should be defined by more than just academics. For example, blue-collar workers exercise physical intelligence. Intelligence is both mental and physical. There are many intellectual skills that go into blue-collar jobs. “Intelligence is closely associated with formal education- the type of schooling, a person has, how much and how long- and most people seem to move comfortably from that notion to a belief that work requiring less schooling requires less intelligence.” (381) Society only looks at intelligence in terms of academics and how much schooling an individual has had. Schooling does not correlate to how intelligent someone is all the time. Intelligence can be acquired outside of a school environment. A lot of learning comes through experience with jobs and outside of classroom experience. Certain skills are learned while actually working hands-on in a situation. “Generalizations about intelligence, work, and social class deeply affect our assumptions about ourselves and each other, guiding the ways we use our minds to learn, build knowledge, solve problems, and make our way through the world” (381)main-qimg-071a87e9c3790890a15602c9bcb5d3df-c.jpeg

 

Man Up

It is often viewed that boys don’t express their emotions because they see it as a sign of weakness by their friends and peers. Studies have shown that “from infancy through age 4 or 5, boys are more emotive than girls.” This begs the question, where did these emotions go from the time they were young to when they became teenagers? The answer is – nowhere. When giving an example of a student he encountered at a lecture, Andrew Reiner said “many young men, just like this student, compose artful, convincing masks, but deep down they aren’t who they pretend to be.” In other words, the boys who never seem to show their deep emotions are just hiding it with a mask because they are afraid of what would happen if they did let it all out. This leads back to what society defines as “manly” in todays world.

Where do we go from here?

Ever since the 2016 election Americans have been asking where do we go from here? The answer has yet still failed to show up. It seems like every move society makes to heal our differences we end up taking two back. So the question remains how can we come back together. I believe the answer to this question is a complex one but can be solved. As Americans, we must return to focusing on what brings us together instead of what drives us apart. Instead of always talking about politics and what drives us apart we should concentrate on other things like sports to heal our countries wounds faster. We are at a point where if we can’t come together and talk about simple things like sports how are we supposed to sit down and debate the hard issues facing our country. The answer is we cant and we must get to this point once again so we can fix our biggest problems and become a country again.

No more “Street Smart” and “Book Smart” Labels

There are assumptions that people who are street smart cannot be book smart as well. Why cannot one person be both? What does being book smart mean exactly? I believe that academics would benefit from broadening what is studied instead of the traditional academic works. Academics are looked at in “narrow” and “exclusive” ways. Shakespeare, for example, is a traditional work that students study throughout their career at school. One should not be discouraged if they don’t think of themselves as book smart. An individuals potential and success is much more than that. Schools should incorporate what is interesting to their students throughout different cultural aspects. Academics should not be so rigid all of the time. It is more natural to become a better writer, student, and analyzer when exploring topics that spark interest. This may even benefit the learning process. The quality of the work and creativity makes the difference in ones work. Teachers want to see that in their students . “Give me the student anytime who writes a sharply argued, sociologically acute analysis of an issue in Source over the student who writes a lifeless explication of Hamlet or Socrates’ Apology.” (375) The outside culture should be incorporated into academics. The labels of “book smart” and “street smart” should not exist anymore. Academics and society should not keep these two ideas divided. The best way to learn is through life experiences. Books and reading famous literary works cannot be the only form of education.

Is it okay to be a “Try Hard”?

School is hard enough with all the work that students have to do along with balancing their social lives and extracurricular activities. So why is that the majority of boys decide to not “try” in school? This is due to the society around us. Boys tend to fall into societal stereotypes that say that if a guy keeps up with his school work he is considered a “try hard.” This is a major reason why boys are falling behind girls in school, and more importantly life. Andrew Reiner makes a good point in saying “some colleges are waking up to the fact that men may need to be taught to think beyond their own stereotypes.” Men need to wake up to the fact that what society says isn’t fact but instead just a misguided opinion.

“He Believed He Could So He Did”

Laurie Frankel’s son was interested in playing dress up and playing with dolls. He then wanted to wear dresses and skirts to school and his mother supported him although she was questioning his decisions. She was worried about what others would think of him but her son had no fear. Before he started school, Laurie and her son practiced saying, “If girls can wear pants or skirts, so can boys”. Now her son refers to himself as her and she is more confident and comfortable in her own skin as a child.

This story illustrates the idea that not only adults have societal expectations, but children also have them too. Most of the expectations start when you are young and develop when you get older. By breaking them and doing what you feel is best might make it easier when you are an adult. He knew he would be more comfortable in skirts and dresses than in pants. Although he knew the repercussions that would along with wearing “girl’ clothes, he did what he knew was the best for him and did not care what the others in his class would think of him. By breaking the “norms” as a child you might make it easier on yourself when you are an adult and influence the perspective of your peers.

We All Can Have It All

Anne-Marie Slaughter exclaims, “I still strongly believe that women can ‘have it all’ (and that men can too). I believe that we can ‘have it all at the same time.’ But not today, not with the way America’s economy and society are currently structured.” Anne-Maire says it is possible for men and women to have a work-life balance but the economy we are in now does not help the situation. It is shown that “women put in more time than men doing housework (sixteen hours to nine) and more time to childcare (twelve to seven).” But on the other hand, “Men in dual-income couples work outside the home eleven more hours a week than their working wives or partners do (forty-two to thirty-one).” This shows the differences where each parent divides their time. In order for a household to work effectively, there has to be a trade-off among both parents. Another issue that couples run into is “the issue of flex time, with some suggesting that men should demand more options for when and where they can do their work so that women aren’t penalized for requesting it.” Men are said to be more lenient and willing to work around their wives time since her time may conflict with the husband. According to the Pew study, it is shown that 70% of working mothers and 48% of working fathers say that a flexible schedule is important to them. One of the most important benefits that working parents look for is the flexibility to work from home if need be.